I recently moved my jabber server to one which has better support for ICQ,
and that put me in a situation where i had to resubscribe to all users and
them to me.

this leads to the very annoying practice of the program to pop up messages
on screen, which happens mid-sentence.

Can't theese events be handled like normal messages, and thus wait until I
actually want the response instead of grabbing focus and happening before I
notice more than the flicker of the screen because I was typing as it appeared?